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The Dialogue is vital. It’s bidirectional between those who have it. It can generate an understanding or misunderstanding. It encourages or discourages. It makes aware or floods and throws off-guard. It creates influence or it creates an impression.

It contributes to healthy or unhealthy relationships. Dialogue “takes place” instead of ”happening”. And thankfully it’s the dialogue that enables discovery of the world around us and recovery from the problems we face.

And yet, this most visible aspect of our interaction is the hardest to control as the event of “communicating” is taking place.

It’s is strange that it’s understood but it’s not observed carefully. It’s noted but allowed to sway at the mercy of our ego. There is opportunity to have a dialogue at all times but it’s not excercised.

Key is to be conciously “aware” of who are the participants of the dialgue, why are they communicating and importantly reading the other participant and adjusting your communication to suit others’ style.

If both communicators are “aware” of what the “other” participant needs, dialgue will will be acknowledged; will be “internalized”; That means it will ”reach” and ”happen”; .

All cases of successful relationships - personal, social or business - are the endresults of influence created by an effective dialgue.

And yet it’s hard work to repeat as dialgue must “happen” at each instance and not “just take place”!!

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