Bamboo In The Wind

Trust is a fundamental fabric that keeps us grounded in near reality. When there is an element of trust in us, we are self-aware, confident, measured, and rational. The opposite of trust is insecurity. We are self-unaware, underconfident, impulsive, and irrational. Trust has immense power to attract calm, understanding interaction from one end. Sending trust has a high probability that the other side with receive interaction without threat. The chance of touching someone's insecurities is lesser when someone initiates conversations by embedding trust. Trusting is a personality trait. It's inherent to who we are and how we view ourselves. Life experiences, our way of looking at our surroundings, and the way we apply ourselves to situations all go to develop a surplus in our trust account. We draw from trust accounts when we are challenged and need help. Others are likely to come to your rescue when you have a trust surplus because of how you acted in various situations in the pa...

Often we expect others to join the cause we are keen to pursue and have embarked on it.  We then look for help from someone who subscribes to our idea of journey and help us accomplish what we want to do and go where we want to go.  This kind of help is cooperative, compliant with our plan, and offers a sincere contribution. There is another kind of help available. A more useful one but the one that we hope will not disrupt the journey we are on. This kind of help is often confrontational, thought-provoking, and has the potential to add a contrarian view to the journey we are on. It makes us organize our plans better, offers a neutral perspective, and sincerely helps us find blind spots on our journey. Which kind of help are you on the lookout for?

In emerging economies, speed-breakers have a unique purpose. They have an important purpose. They work flawlessly to slow down the speeding vehicles and protect the pedestrian traffic or avoid a traffic jam at an awkward intersection on the road.  Speedy vehicles have a specific pattern. Speeding drivers tend to be in a rush, engrossed, agitated; in a state of anger or despair, and want to get over the emotion by driving quicker putting everyone else including themselves at risk. Speedy actions by an individual, on the other hand, have a no different fate. Impulsive decisions often are speedy thoughts followed by speedy decisions to do something. Such decisions are based on inadequate information and pose a risk of unfavorable outcomes.  We perhaps need to adopt speed breakers - in our ways to make decisions. Slowing down not to process our first thoughts would be an important part of such mental speed-breakers. Our thinking models need to utilize our thought generation engine...

Have you ever noticed that sometimes life takes a turn and we don’t even notice it? Oddly, somewhere down the line, we feel the changing winds and start noticing.  That awareness that we are noticing the change is the beginning of life's turning event. Events happen but we need to internally feel what they mean.  We get college admissions and move out for the first time, secure the first job, begin to pursue artistic interests and acquire new hobbies that we haven’t been able to pursue. It’s not until we see that the internal state of mind begins to resonate with the external state of change that we start valuing the events and changes that are taking place. We notice something is amiss first, then search for what has changed, spot the change that in the first place we began noticing, reason out whether change is good or bad, come to a state of equilibrium and internal convergence takes place. At this point in time, we start accepting the change as useful, beneficial hence goo...

Togetherness is magic! It generates happiness, shared experiences, differing perspectives, a sense of belonging, and collective wisdom. Togetherness often leads to the environment of being at our creative best. The reason for this is the fulfillment, encouragement, and collaborative advancement we experience by being together. This is why families often focus on get-togethers and family functions. They enhance our perspective about ways of living, conducting our life with rigor, and discharging our duties. These various facets bond us together.  Family get-togethers are a reflection of mindful culture building that yields introverts a safe place to express and extroverts have supportive audiences.  Make us create developmental experiences to learn from and share with others. Similarly, at work, the concept of teams is important. It's a reflection of togetherness that yields us productive advancement of our aspects of work, decision making, personal development, organizational ...

Fear. The singlemost biggest reason we don't want to commit is the fear of not delivering what we promised. Fear of falling short. In whose eyes though? Our own eyes. So fear falling short in our own eyes is a subtle reflection of hurting image we carry about ourselves; that of our behaviour, abilities and actions. When subconticously held image of ourselves does not match reality of our behaviour, does not demonstrate abilities or actions in real life , we suddenly spring a surprise on ourselves about the mismatch. The instantlt invoked reaction of surprise is a reflection of ego which tries to justify our behaviour, abilities and actions. We fall into denial knowingly. We absolve ourselves of any responsibility of such outcome. We hold someone else responsible for our view of the reality. What this means is that being committal has a cost of hurting our ego and going through denial and making someone else the reason for it. When we know that such mismatch is likely to be a routin...