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Failure is in our minds!

Failure is often a reflection of mismatched expectations. We expect to accomplish something without fully knowing what it will take us to achieve it.

Fear sets in when we find ourselves away on the path of achievement. We fear because we will likely miss a given commitment. We fear that we will look unreliable to others. Fear sets in because we think we are letting ourselves down.

Not achieving something is not a failure. Giving up is a failure. Failure has the power of freezing us. It makes us inactive.

When something looks hard, it's best to break down the problem into something small that we can understand. When we can create smaller actionable steps, it has the potential to unfreeze us.

It allows us back into the game. Fear vanishes when we start to solve smaller pieces of the puzzle. We don't have to focus on the complexity. Instead, we need to focus on what is doable. Focus on what is required in the present circumstances.

Calibrating expectations to real us takes away the power fear exerts on us.

Ruthlessly calibrate it to lower expectations. Fear vanishes right then. We realize failure is a perception. Not a reality. 

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