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Mounting a fight-back!

By Bamboo In The Wind

You try hard every day. You want to be in the zone. Accomplish your desires. And there come obstacles. 

You blame the extrinsic. But the real cause is intrinsic. 

The way you come out with a response to an unexpected determines the next course. The unexpected erodes your confidence. Dashes your commitment. Noise rings in your head, asking you to give up and move on.

Sure, that is an option.

There is a better one. Desires are your internal expectations. Unless you can describe your expectations with words, they are just a haze. 

Once you describe them in words, you have a chance to understand the desires. You can then work to realize them by building supporting habits. Know that habits take time to build up. But they are best enforced and cemented with small daily rituals.

Rituals can be disputed. However, they are unsaid rules that make you own your part of the ritual.

Visiting places of worship on certain days. Bedtime routines, morning time quiet for meditation, no coffee if you want to go for a run, afternoon walk before and after lunch to shed workplace monotony, switching off mobile phones and laptops to focus on notes taking.

You can find many such specific rituals that eradicate the obstructions in your desire to achieve anything and see if they work for only you. They are custom. Unique to your own resistance.

Rituals are creative spaces that balance your response in active spurts where resistance pops up unexpectedly and begs you to give up.

Developing rituals are the way to mount a fight-back when you are unable to keep your commitments.

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