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Overcoming the emotional upheaval!

By Bamboo In The Wind

The choices we make decide how we feel. Circumstances manifest from the choices we make and lead us to follow on emotions we see.

Some choices put us in a tough spot despite looking like good options. Reasons are plenty, but the key ones are:
We are swayed by herd thinking. We end up choosing something that many others do.

We do not know how certain decisions affect us. The intellectual, physical, and emotional labor required to make our choices a reality are ill-understood and underestimated.

That is a surprise waiting for us, and we need to build a technique for dealing with it spontaneously. Because there is no early warning.

How do we deal with it?

Know that surprises bring unexpected downward spirals. We will have poor outcomes. We might feel low. 

We start imagining ourselves from other's points of view.

The way out is to accept we are what we are. The low point is an imaginary and irrelevant data point in the long run.

We are a sum of many decisions we make over a very long term. One short-term decision where an unanticipated outcome threw off balance does not represent the whole of us but is a weak decision we made at some point in time.

If we reach this understanding,  we might eliminate our emotional upheaval and begin an upward trajectory. It requires staying the course. One step at a time and witness altering trajectory firsthand.

First, we need to tackle the emotional upheaval. It needs to be listened to and hopped over as an aberration! Revival kicks in right there.

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