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Rising above the daily conflict!

We are put off by bad behavior. We do not think someone can act in a way that affects us. But that is just our thought.

People have their own ways of dealing with interactions. Their communication is marred with situational emotional responses.

Our upbringing, surroundings, and environment shape our expectations. But the problem with expectations is that they are our worldview of how something should happen. When expectations are breached, and things don't go as per our belief system, a surprise awaits us.

The surprise generates enormous friction inside. Something that burns us from the inside. Hopelessness grips us, and the future looks bleak.

Time and again, we run into a situation that repeats this pattern. We must look inside and inspect if our efforts, behavior, and understanding of the problem are not the reason. We need to tell ourselves the truth. It is hard work because we like to tell ourselves the stories that make us look good and blame others.

But our efforts are honest and genuine once we learn to provide candid pictures ourselves. When our conduct is respectful, and our understanding is bereft of biases, we begin to climb the rope of dealing with adversity with grace and confidence. We do not worry about the setback we face. No matter because of whom or because of which situation. 

We begin to deal with the recovery path by throwing ourselves out there amidst people! Trying again with a sense of pride in having tried our best. We discover ourselves only among other people by doing things for others.

That is the best way to rise above the daily conflict of mind, people, and situations! Be among others.

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