Beware of disengagement! If we come down hard with a strong point of view, there is a chance that someone may decide to quietly walk away. Not because they don't like our viewpoint. But because they feel that they are not heard. Such forceful is our approach that others might feel constrained and contained when expressing themselves.
Disengagements show signs of reluctance, disinterest, disagreements, and silence.
More importantly, such signs stem from the perceived lack of room for expression.
Why should that happen when we think we are well-intentioned? The quality of our intention is our perception. It becomes real through our words. Words make their way to others and convey a specific tone and meaning. That is the recipient's prerogative, not ours.
How we are being heard determines how our intention is seen. If meaning expresses warmth and open participation, then whole-hearted reciprocation is imperative.
However, if our approach turns out close-ended and unidirectional, don't be surprised if our closest associates veer away!
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