When doing something, you like to have everything in order. There has to be a plan in place. There has to have a timetable of what is to happen and when.
Once the tent of an expected experience is erected, you feel good for having planned a likable itinerary. You pat ourselves for having organized it with meticulous details.
The day arrives full of surprises. Things you thought you had planned well do not go as planned.
You are in for a huge disappointment. You feel let down. You dislike what you encounter. And that is fair!
But wait, what are you really disliking? The way you planned? The experience itself? Or that you are experiencing something you had not thought of?
Dislikes generate when you encounter something that is not a primary concern or focus of attention. That is when the unexpected stumps you. It is not that you dislike what you experience. It is that you did not expect that experience at that juncture. You had not budgeted for it!
The environment you want to achieve them in tremendously influences what you will experience. Your dislikes are rarely for the experience. They are for not anticipating.
Once you learn to anticipate the possibilities - ahead of time - your dislikes begin to dissipate!
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