"No" and "Not yet" have two different connotations. Saying "No" is definitive, stalling. Sometimes it is self-effacing and boundary setter. It is protective of preferences.
It can be limiting. We pretend that we have all the facts. Naturally, it embeds the thinking that we have built an unbiased understanding.
"No" is easy and gets you off the hook quickly. It also leaves out an opportunity for the deep inspection something deserves.
Often "No" is the trap we get into.
"Not yet," on the other hand, is more open. Encouraging and exploratory.
It expresses confidence that we can learn more and still make the right call. It is respectful of needing ways to overcome biases.
"Not yet," can lead us to uncertain possibilities, risk exposure, and experience of stumbling before we are confident. Confidence is a trigger to say "Yes." Or affirmatively say "No."
Say "Yes" or even "No." We then have the skin in the decision we make. There won't be regrets.
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