Constrained access is often a sign of unease and discomfort. Open access defines the model of inviting engagement. And yet, these can be frightening. While they offer a chance to interact and learn from it, there is a strong chance that we may succumb to an undesired commitment.
Occasionally, our willingness to open up access can be taken advantage of. It can put us in acts that are not natural to us. We do not feel proud for having been part of those, nor do we feel good that we found no way to stay away from them.
The emotive sensory system - the one we develop from experiences - permits us to build a defense mechanism to understand the nature of engagements.
At first, such a system is preliminary, influenced by insecurities. This is when we respond by constraining our access to defend our well-being. Constrained access can be an overreaction from fear of being disadvantaged. Because as our experience and understanding from engagements grow, the emotive sensory system goes on to revise and determines what is good for us. Which means we are more comfortable with open access as our leading posture.
Open access comes on the heels of a secure emotive system. It is the one with enormous potential. But first, we need a confident self that knows how to learn from what we experience and absorb!
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