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Filters are how we associate!

By Bamboo In The Wind
We always like to use filters before we want to associate with anyone or anything. We want to be in a position to be satisfied with the decision we make. The desire to be happy invokes the filters to use.

Satisfaction may come from rage, deception, self-flagellating, helping, supporting, transacting, promoting, encouraging, etc. - from numerous things we are unaware of.

Then our search begins to classify our experience from the lens of achieving the desired end state.

The best place to use filters when dealing with people is during the interaction. Interactions may be planned or unplanned, but we use filters that help us uncover the traits that define us. Usually, we use filters close to our own characteristics, preferences, and biases.

The interaction represents a fight in the ring with the fierce attack, exchange of pleasantness, testing of skills, and an art of negotiation all on display. They are filters to assess the long-term potential of our association.

Only some know filters have a crucial purpose. As much as it is to weed out the noise from unfruitful associations, it also develops lasting relationships!

The key is to know how to develop filters to use and learn from the output of filters!

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