Bamboo In The Wind

1. Being able to "Face" that the trusted ones, the close ones can get criticized and without feeling "Insulted" about the criticism 2. Showing distance (physical or emotional) so much so that it generates misunderstanding about the level of respect or feeling of love for others 3. Being able to accept the different styles of communication to misinterpret it as "bad behavior" from others. 4. Thinking that solutions come by "Waiting" rather than by "discussing". 5. Not understanding that anger is a prominent root cause in situations that may not be in control of those who are involved in the situations. 6. Not knowing how to get help and from whom? 7. Not respecting each others accomplishments. Not showing path to others to encourage by presenting an opportunity to get new accomplishments of their own. 8. Not realizing communication should never "Stop" even when we feel the anger. 9. Not realizing that instant r...

Some succeed and some do not. Results achieved are a reflection of a Will demonstrated, Perseverence showcased and most critically Decisions made. Any time there is result, there is strong demonstration of these three key aspects of behaviours strengths. Will - is a reflection of desire to achieve Perseverence - is a reflection of efforts taken Decisions - is a reflection of a thought process of choosing options available And the Result - is an end artifact - an amalgamation of all of above.

Through some knocks I have taken in the past, over time, I have learned to distinguish between types of questions based on "impact" answers will create. Is it an information question? Quick answer is possible. Impact to "others" may be minimal. Is it a decision making question? Quick answer is possible. Impact to "others" may be significant. Is it an opinion question? Quick turn-around is ok. Impact to “others” may depend on how the sample size polled responds. Is it a problem solving question? Instant response is possible. But well researched follow-up may be better, for, impact to “others” may be more immediate and significant. How question get answered depends on “How” a question is asked and the “Trust” contract between person who asked and person who answers. Commitment in the answer will depend on level of “Engagement” that already exists between persons involved. Similar relationship may develop when there is a person “Inte...

How many times do we see ourselves grappling with the thought to do something but do not get to it? Analyzing what to do often gets us paralyzed. All we need is a process of discovery involving the action of doing something for some purpose and then testing if that is what we wanted to do. And yet, we want to figure out what to do in our heads and then never get around to really arriving at that perfect thing to do. The side effect, however, is huge - It's alright that you want to be a perfectionist when you do something but it makes you experience less. For experience exposure is vital. Getting ourselves to do something rather than waiting until our analysis of what do is complete will likely make us learn from the environment much faster, make us wiser and interaction with the environment will make our time spent well worth it. Paralyzing ourselves with the thoughts of doing something great rarely comes without being constantly in touch with reality for who it's done fo...

The Dialogue is vital. It’s bidirectional between those who have it. It can generate an understanding or misunderstanding. It encourages or discourages. It makes aware or floods and throws off-guard. It creates influence or it creates an impression. It contributes to healthy or unhealthy relationships. Dialogue “takes place” instead of ”happening”. And thankfully it’s the dialogue that enables discovery of the world around us and recovery from the problems we face. And yet, this most visible aspect of our interaction is the hardest to control as the event of “communicating” is taking place. It’s is strange that it’s understood but it’s not observed carefully. It’s noted but allowed to sway at the mercy of our ego. There is opportunity to have a dialogue at all times but it’s not excercised. Key is to be conciously “aware” of who are the participants of the dialgue, why are they communicating and importantly reading the other participant and adjusting your communication...