Bamboo In The Wind

Accommodation is an excellent trait. So long as we are gracious to the benefit of everyone, including us, accommodation generates a sense of giving, a feeling of contribution, supporting well-rounded growth. The problem with free-fall accommodation is that it can turn us into a false self-belief that things would only progress with our support feature. Constantly accommodating has a pitfall in that others quickly get used to the free availability of help. It sure has the cost attached. At first, it feels noble, fulfilling work to accommodate others and resolve confusion and challenges. And why not?  Who does not like seeing everyone in our surroundings, seeing what we  see, doing what we enjoy, and progressing with equal opportunity?  We think there is a dearth of such behavioral good, and we are the Messiah tasked to reduce chaos all around ! This might be the turning point for a good intention becoming a downhill battle of losing self-control.  Accommodation of pri...

Walking the talk means holding ourselves accountable to do precisely what we say. It is no meant feat to be doing what we say we will. It is driven by an honest desire to follow through on the commitment.  There are numerous ways we might push ourselves to stray on finding reasons to justify that fulfilling commitments can wait or are unimportant for present times. Sincerity is the force multiplier that provides the rationale for meeting our commitments. It gives an impetus for consistent behavior. It is the might behind the trust with which we are looked at. Sincerity is a master skill that makes us credible!

How ever delicate it may be. No matter how dependent it might feel in the moment, seeking help is the surest way to have good alternatives. When we seek help, we recognize the boundaries beyond which our efforts will not yield the desired outcomes. It indicates the acceptance of our limitations.  It is also a sign that we are open enough to recognize that others can hold better knowledge and thus are better people to partner with and steer us out of our situation. And so you embark on your search for the right person to seek help from. What if you encountered someone unempathetic?  Someone insensitive, wreckless, and uncaring can quickly destroy our confidence that we can rely on people and bail ourselves out of critical situations.  The bad news is this, too, can happen. The better one is we still stand a chance with anyone we encounter like this. Networking is a tool to reach those who fall within our reach, those from whom we get influenced, or those we do so ours...

Damned if you do it, damned if you don't!  Some circumstances require you to walk a delicate balance of right versus wrong. And why not? There are outcomes and impacts thereof to deal with.  Everything we do affects sentiments around us, people, and our surroundings. We must remain cognizant that walking past hurdles isn't the act that affects us. Others might be impacted by our actions. Crossing hurdles is rarely easy. It requires boldness, forethought, careful planning, and being there to cater to the aftermath of impact should there be one!

We tend to be self-forgiving. We are too eager to say we tried our best. What does trying our best really mean?  By saying we do our best, are we sure we are not taking a shortcut when things do not work? This question begs a bit of pondering over how we act. When we have low standards for achieving anything, it usually means our efforts do not match our expectations, and hence we are uncertain about the results that ensue.  When results are not what we expect, we find someone else, something else to blame for it. Clearly, under such circumstances, we do not own the mismatch between expectations and the efforts we undertake.  Under such circumstances, our best efforts usually mean we are copping out from responsibility and ownership of our efforts. However, when we have a high standard for achieving anything, it usually means our efforts are closer to our expectations.  Hence, we are reasonably clear about where our blind failure spots or our success achiever spots a...

There are two sides to our participation. One side acts as a mere spectator. Waits for others to accommodate you and carry you along.  This passive, waiting-to-be-accommodated persona makes everything we do a wee bit harder. We are passive when we expect to be noticed, valued, and respected. The other side is proactive. It volunteers and accommodates many things, people, suggestions, thoughts, etc. It helps us find our way into the world with a persona built with Genuinity, work, ethics, and conduct. Accommodating is a two-way act. It is the first step to comforting surroundings. It establishes a trusting environment conducive to constructive creation.

A situational retorting reaction is a sign of alertness. We can rest assured that we have done or said something that caught others' attention. So much so that someone stepped forward with a quick response, often even unexpected to us. We must consider that is a good sign. We often self-doubt our actions and wonder whether it catches anyone's eye. But getting someone to react is a sign of getting attention and feedback. Rejoinders are a sign that we have an audience. Better still, we must know that the audience cares about us enough to let us know how they feel. And yet, sometimes, take rejoinder with a pinch of salt.

We like to do things a bit hazily. Ambiguity gives it the color of complex, involved, intriguing, or eye-catching. Does it have to be that way? Surely, No!  We go the route of haziness when we need to be more adequately prepared and equipped rather than clouding our minds with doing something we are remotely interested in!  And we do so with one eye on how we might be perceived. Most good things don't start with glamour as a goal! Glamour, fame, and accolades result from something done commendably well.  But more often, they are also an outcome of grandiose resulting from being in queue for page-three club eager to be in the limelight. Embark, we must. With care. With caution. While looking to cross just the one-foot-hurdle.  That gives specificity to what we are doing.  Out of the limelight and finding purpose because of the clarity of how we do it!

Do what is in your control. What you are prepared for.  Focus not on the special. Focus on the routine. Special is rare and mostly an anomaly.  Routine is usual. Usual is what allows stepping in an upward trajectory. Unscathed, unblocked.  Special can surprise us; the bruise is or look to be spectacular.  What looks special also occurs infrequently. It is dependent on so many factors to come together. And so it is miraculous. Routine is mundane, boring, and unnoticeable. Practice makes us progress effortlessly.

Being proactive and taking the initiative is not an option anymore; it is a requirement. In a world where we waited for our creation to go to the masses through the distributor, now easily do so by opening a storefront to showcase art as it is created. We don't need to wait for the perfect mentors to show up in our workplaces; we can use social networks for inspiration and connect with those who were once invisible and out of reach. We cannot rely on others to make us a perfect career. The onus of that is upon us! They say opportunity knocks on our door; what if it does not work for us? Then go create the door first! Where we liked spending our entire career at one company, we are creating opportunities that keep us satisfied by connecting and changing jobs that don't keep us happy. Where we used to turn to confidential sources of capital from small groups, more so now than ever, we can thrive on our ideas by going online and raising an emotional appeal for what we solve to exp...