Bamboo In The Wind

It means two things. We desired something with hope instead of skill and effort. Or we chose something by backing it up with skill and effort, yet external parameters needed to be more conducive to achieving the outcome. Both reasons may surprise us, but they are real. The sooner we adjust the reality, the better we are off. But does it reflect poorly on the self? Surprise is a function of not knowing the possibility that we may not get there. Not knowing that puts us in a blind spot. When we are caught in a blind spot, outcomes hurt.  Surprise dramatically reduces when we accept that an uncertain outcome is possible for our desire. We must be okay with it. This means our internal state of what we expect and external state of results are sincere failures that we must learn from without beating ourselves. Having a fall is fine! In fact, it may be avoided altogether because we are okay with the possibility! Get ready first!

A vital part of progressing is keeping patience when we are in the midst of an act. Things may look out of control, but it must feel that way because of the memory of what happened in the past. Things can go out of control, but it may be because we get suddenly disorganized during the act and lose control of our script. Both situations warrant being patient and remaining calm. And focusing on the next few steps and holding guarding rails while you do is the best rather than imagining the valley some distance away. The road to a safe climb depends on whether we are watching our steps. If we do, the valley never arrives!

We always like to use filters before we want to associate with anyone or anything. We want to be in a position to be satisfied with the decision we make. The desire to be happy invokes the filters to use. Satisfaction may come from rage, deception, self-flagellating, helping, supporting, transacting, promoting, encouraging, etc. - from numerous things we are unaware of. Then our search begins to classify our experience from the lens of achieving the desired end state. The best place to use filters when dealing with people is during the interaction. Interactions may be planned or unplanned, but we use filters that help us uncover the traits that define us. Usually, we use filters close to our own characteristics, preferences, and biases. The interaction represents a fight in the ring with the fierce attack, exchange of pleasantness, testing of skills, and an art of negotiation all on display.  They are filters to assess the long-term potential of our association. Only some know filt...

Often, abundant opportunities are around us. We don't see them because we focus on what is trending. What trends  end up   making an impression on us. By nature, trends only last for a while. They fizzle out as interest dies. And yet, we end up giving out special attention to what trends. It wastes our energy and results in nothing of substance in the end. We must learn that what we encounter near us is worthwhile and engage with it with enthusiasm. Something covered with dust may turn out interestingly engaging, provided we have an eye for it.  If it can be helpful to us and also to many around and near us, it ought to be cleaned and offered as a precious little serving. Often trends are nothing but events that hold the polish of our aspirations. Once we realize tremendous work is involved between aspiring to the trends and achieving in the real world, the value of what is trending begins to dissipate in our minds. So finding something trivial and unstructured is a gift....

We tend to think that experience is the savior because it helps with pattern recognition, which supports our intuition. When pattern recognition and intuition are at play, we are in the best position to make decisions. But sometimes, experience also stands in our way! And we must recognize that. We usually get better with experience with specific tasks. While we may get a little better with other jobs, we might learn patterns and build intuitions that make us a lot more confident. So, it is critical to know the environment we are in.  In accommodating learning environments, repetition of tasks is commonplace, the work environment remains unchanged for an extended period, and feedback is predictable. With experience, we get better at performing tasks and become better at judgments about solving problems.  In a disruptive learning environment, on the other hand, the tasks do not repeat; the work environment overhauls and continually changes over time. We are required to figure o...

One fine day rarely arrives accidentally. There are many days, in fact, every day of work behind the day that showed spectacular results. The trouble is there is no sign that we are on a spectacular journey.  We are heading down a path that is ordinary and stoic yet consistent. It builds patience, confronts us with what is right, and resolves our fears. It turns us into bold explorers. The journey leads us to dense forests with the rare sign of sunlight, surroundings barely visible, but senses become alert as days pass. It moves us to more apparent land. And one fine day, we are in the open with arms embracing the challenges with no fear, full of confidence, and clear purpose!

It is an essential aspect of one's progress and is routinely ignored. It is a significant contributing factor to how the journey ends up becoming.  Recognizing support demonstrates our generosity. Accepting that others were responsible for nudging us to take steps that yielded our achievements. Others will never expect us to acknowledge the part they played. If we do, it will build a trusting association and burst into opportunities. If we don't, their contribution is still responsible for who we are and where we are. The danger is that the association will deteriorate into a forgettable transaction. It is a trap that leads nowhere.

Disconnection is the state where the inability to see the continuity, comprehend and respond is weak. The state of disconnection makes us insensitive no the needs that nurture a lively, meaningful coexistence. As simple as it appears, disconnection is due to accumulated emotions closing the route to sensitivity that triggers the affirmative input for action. We have long been told to rely on other people for help, but we need to figure out how to find whom to rely on. And then, even if we did, what if the person we tried depending on did not offer the expected support. Incidentally, people who are willing to help share a comfortable position with themselves and have good navigation of their outbound interactions - both positive and negative. They are more inclined to help with position interactions and more introspective about the negative ones.  And thus, a person with a comfortable self is like to be more open to listening, comprehending, and responding to a weak signal from some...

Abundance drugs. When it does, everything appears within reach. We rarely see a shortage. And we get used to availability. Abundance is a drug because it changes our worldview to think hard work and achievements deliver a lasting surplus requiring no further work. Material and emotional excess, w ith the hope of turning that into lasting equity. Equity, by definition, participation of a kind, brings an understanding of equality. Preservation of value has priority. Yet, equality begins to fade when abundance sets in and erodes trust resulting from hard work, accommodation, and understanding. Abundance brings a sense of franchise, entitlement, ignorance, and preference for how things must be in the present state. Scarcity, on the other hand, is grounding. It reminds us of our past acts to connect the journey to its present state. 

As someone working towards a good cause, you must routinely form agreements with others through influence. This involves persuading them to support your ideas, collaborating with other organizations, or recruiting volunteers to help with your cause. Firstly, ensuring that everyone involved knows what you're trying to achieve is crucial. This means clearly explaining your cause and communicating it effectively to others.  Secondly, building trust and rapport is essential when trying to influence others. This means being honest, reliable, and respectful in your interactions with others. Thirdly, it's essential to be flexible and willing to compromise to reach a shared understanding. This could mean finding common ground, defining problems together, brainstorming alternative solutions, or prioritizing specific goals.  Lastly, holding yourself and others accountable is essential. This means following through on your commitments and ensuring others do the same. Forming an agreement...